I’m going to shortly cover some basic tips and steps you must do if you want to get your former partner back; these are universally applicable principles regardless of whether you’re a girl trying to get a guy back or vice-versa.
Being the only one who is trying to resolve the problem can be a difficult and lonely proposition, but there are always ways to salvage even the worst situations.
No One Needs the Needy!
Begging, clinging, and other types of desperate behavior are much more likely to repel your lost love rather than pull them closer to you.
Not only is it vital to show everyone that you can triumph in the toughest of times, but you must also prove it to yourself. No one ever said breakups were easy, keep the screaming, sobbing and crying behind closed doors (just you and that pint of Haagen-Daas will ever know about it).
Temporarily Cut Off Contact
Cutting off all contact may seem counter productive to fixing a failed relationship, but it is THE vital step that is also the toughest. There is a very good reason that things have ended up at this point, and it’s obvious that at least one of you needs a break.
To allow some time for reflection and thought is the best way to evaluate the relationship. This also gives your ex some time to clear their head. It could be that some time away will remind them of how much they really cherished your relationship.
Be the person they fell in love with. They were attracted to you because they felt good with you, and you were fulfilling their emotional needs. How have you changed and WHY? Correct any bad habits and errors you may have. Be positive around them, laugh and smile.
Get Out and Socialize!
This is no time to be by yourself–call your friends and get out and have some fun. You should develop other forms of entertainment in your life. This does not mean you have to date, or even look at the opposite sex. It simply means you need to occupy yourself and remember who you are. Getting out will also be helpful for when you get back with your ex–your conversations have some new life in them thanks to some of the new stories you have to tell.
Just Be Yourself
There was a reason that you and your ex-lover were initially attracted to each other, and part of this was because you are a entirely unique person. Think of what made these first few days you spent together so special, and try to figure out what has changed.
Learn to accentuate your qualities and strive to be the real person you are–sometimes relationships can become monotonous and you can forget what it was that made both of you so attractive to each other. This renewed perception of yourself will rub off on everyone around you, including your ex.
It is not easy to win back the love of your life, but it can be done. Determination and patience (and love) are the most essential qualities needed to be successful. The basic tips above will get you started on your quest, but it is important to continue be adaptable to whatever your situation is.
If you truly love your ex, then you need to do everything in your power to prove yourself, and to learn how to really do this I must insist that you go here and listen to what this guy has to say, I can’t recommend him highly enough: The Magic of Making Up.